The in-between state/Learning to love

"Anxiety, heartbreak, and tenderness mark the in-between state. It´s the kind of place we usually want to avoid. The challenge is to stay in the middle rather than buy into struggle and complaint. The challenge is to let it soften us rather than make us more rigid and affraid.
Becoming intimate with queasy feeling of being in the middle of nowhere only makes our heart more tender. When we are brave enough to stay in the middle, compassion arises spontaneously. By not knowing, not hoping to know, and not acting like we know what´s happening, we begin to access our inner strength.
Yet is seems reasonable to want some kind of relief. If we can make the situation right or wrong, if we can pin it down in any way, then we are on familiar ground. But something has shaken up our habitual patterns and frequently they no longer work. Staying with volatile energy gradually becomes more comfortable than acting it out or repressing it. (...) Staying with it is what heals. It allows us to let go of our self-importance.
It´s how the warrior learns to love."
Pema C.